'I hate my engagement ring - Shenzhen Moissanite Jewelry Group Co.,Ltd

The woman admitted that she felt like a 'brat' for not liking her ring, but she was really disappointed that he'd gone with his mother's advice, rather than the hints she'd dropped over the years

When your partner is down on one knee in front of you, asking you to marry them, it's a really exciting time. Your mind may quickly wander to what sort of outfit you'll wear on your big day, or who you'll invite. But eventually you'll suddenly snap back to reality to have a gander at the ring they've chosen for you.

Hopefully, you'll love it, but one woman admitted she "hates" the ring her husband chose for her, despite the numerous hints she'd dropped over the years by "showing him many photos of rings" that she liked.

She took to Reddit to explain that she'd been with him over three years and they'd been married for six months – but she still hates the ring.

She wrote: "I hate the ring. He wanted a traditional engagement - pick the ring himself, talk to my family first, one knee, etc. I showed him many photos of rings I liked, we even shopped together and picked a few we both loved. He ended up proposing with a ring that looks nothing like anything we had picked together.

"He told me later he showed his mum photos of what I liked and in short, she disagreed. She didn't like that we had picked lab-created or moissanite stones. She also told him the shapes I liked were 'dated' (her engagement ring had one of these 'dated' shapes originally and she recently spent thousands to have it reset with a BIG 'modern' pear shape).

"She pushed him for 'real' diamonds which blew his budget, so my husband picked a tiny diamond pear, halo, with stones around the band (similar to his mum's, just smaller)."

The woman really wasn't impressed with the choice, explaining that she struggles with sensory issues and the side stones pinch her fingers, meaning she "thinks about it all day every day."

She continued: "I sometimes have to take it off while driving because it hurts to hold anything. I've worn the ring out of loyalty to my husband since he proposed. I bought my own wedding band and the ring is little enough that I can hide it in a stack of other rings.

"I feel like a brat for hating it. It was far too expensive to be as ugly and poorly crafted as it is. I have to have it serviced almost monthly because the prongs on the side bend and snag my clothing. The jeweller I consult with has told me this can't be fixed due to the size. He's warned me that I will lose stones, likely most of them on the band if a single prong breaks.

"It's a constant reminder my husband picked his mom's taste over mine as a symbol of our commitment. I would rather have green fingers from something meaningful than this 'purist' c***."

People urged her to speak to him and let him know that she was upset about it, rather than burying it under the carpet.

One wrote: "You need to communicate with him about it. Will it hurt his feelings? Probably. But your feelings are important too. He prioritised his mom's wishes over yours and he should know that's an issue. If you did something that hurt his feelings wouldn't you want to know so you could correct it or avoid hurting him again?"

Another echoed that sentiment, commenting: "Your marriage can't survive if you two can't communicate honestly and openly with each other. This is a great chance to be honest with him instead of holding in your frustration and disappointment."

Someone else said: "I'm going to go ahead and say, this was not malicious on his part. He wanted help with a very important decision, and turned to his mom who is probably the only woman he's close enough to and trusts enough to give him advice on this topic. She gave him bad advice. At this point, he doesn't know that. Absolutely talk to the dude, just lay it out, no fluff.

"'Hey, the ring you got isn't what I wanted, and it doesn't fit my lifestyle. I'd like to return/exchange it for one that does.' If he can't handle that, he's got issues."

What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments.